Dwight and Caroline’s relationship can be
characterized into three stages. From its inception Jack and Caroline had a
relationship based on infatuation alone. Their relationship consisted of
passion alone for each other. Caroline was sexually attracted to Dwight, as was
he to her. Caroline was infatuated with the person Dwight appeared to be. She
was turned on that he was nice and charming and knew how to treat a woman. When
they first began to go out Caroline adored the fact that he brought her
flowers. Dwight was simply interested in Caroline for what she had to offer
him. The passion alone is what got him to that level. Soon after their
relationship developed into a Fatuous Love. In the beginning of the marriage
the couple’s relationship had been based on passion and commitment. Both were
still physically and sexually attracted to each other but the role of
commitment came into play as well. Dwight needed a female figure in the home to
do his chores, such as cook his dinner and clean his house, as well as a
mother-like figure for his children. Caroline needed to settle down and start
her life over. She was tired of always being on the run, and Dwight brought as
sense of security and stability into her life. She also needed a father for
Jack. This may have driven her into the arms of Jack more than any other
reason. Dwight had everything she was looking for in a father for Jack. He
seemed caring, authoritarian, loving, and stable. Their relationship would
continue to go on in this manner until the passion faded. This led to an Empty
Love relationship. The commitment alone is what kept them together. They no
longer had any real feelings of love fore one another. Dwight was simply with
Caroline for the reason that she kept food on the table and kept his house clean.
Caroline on the other hand was still with Dwight because she had no where else
to turn as well as what Jack had to offer her son. Dwight was like a father
figure to Jack, something that Jack never had before and needed at this age
because he was very impressionable. Caroline’s commitment, for the fact that he
provided for them and supposedly was like a father to Jack kept her with
Dwight.
From the time Jack arrived in Seattle to the time he left for prep school
Jack’s behaviors and life decisions were extrinsically and intrinsically
motivated. Upon his arrival in Seattle with his mother Jack made many new
decisions. The affiliation motive is what influenced Jack’s behavior of smoking
and cutting school. Jack’s need for social bonds and to belong motivated him to
indulge in the activities of the people whom he wanted to form the social bonds
with. An example of the affiliation motive is the scene where Jack cut school
and met up with his friends to go to one of their houses to smoke and talk
dirty, while they were watching Superman. These activities can also be
attributed to the stimulus motives. Jack was now in a susceptible stage of his
life. He was 15 and curious. His decision to smoke cigarettes can be explained
by his curiosity to try new things. He was now in the state of exploration,
these activities provided sensory stimulation. In the next scene where Jack and
his friends decided to put a car out of its park position, which sent the car
rolling down the hill, eventually crashing. This is an activity which they
probably did for kicks, but it can better explained by their need for
stimulation, this activity provided that stimulation. Jack may have also been
influenced to participate in this activity by his need to belong and form
social bonds. He needed to maintain optimal levels of arousal, varying his
exposure to arousing stimuli did this. The smoking, school cutting, and car
prank can all be attribute to the arousal theory. Jack’s decision to go live
with Dwight was both extrinsically and intrinsically motivated. His mother
proposed this idea to him, but I believe that Jack was more intrinsically
motivated to go live with Dwight. Jack had been getting in trouble in school,
his pugnacious behavior put him into a very uncomfortable position with his mother.
Jack knew that he needed to change his ways. His decision to move in with
Dwight was humanistic motivation. Jack was motivated by the conscious desire
for personal growth. He was not motivated to self-actualize but he was
motivated to excel. The achievement motive was half of the reason Jack decided
to move in with Dwight. He was also motivated to nourish and protect the
emotions of his mother. The stress of Jack’s constant mischievous behaviors was
getting to Caroline and she could not deal well with stress. She coped with
stress by going to sleep and this is not healthy. Jack had decided to move in
with Dwight for the sake of his mother. This life decision to move in with
Dwight was attributed to the nurturance motive.
In another scene Jack takes Dwight’s car out for a ride. He was motivated to do
this for many reasons. I think that can be explained by the Instinct theory.
Wm. James and Wm. McDougall said that humans have instincts that foster
self-survival and social behavior. One of Mcdougall’s “basic instincts” is
escape. While Jack was on the road, by himself, he had a fake feeling of
escape. There was no one around to criticize or tell him what to do. He also
needed to feel free, away from Dwight and his controlling manner. This activity
provided Jack with a false feeling of having escaped. Jack was also being
pugnacious and curious, these are two more of McDougall’s “basic instincts”. He
was defying Dwight, at the same time he was satisfying his curious nature to go
out driving alone.
The final and most major life decision, which Jack made occurred in the last
scenes of the film. The fight scene in the kitchen between Jack and Dwight was
the last straw for Jack. Jack had endured enough of Dwight’s unnaturally
strict, selfish and abusive manner. Dwight had done everything in his power to
make Tobias's life a living hell. In that scene Jack realized that there was
nothing to keep him in Concrete. He had been accepted to the Hill school and he
made the life decision of leaving. This decision can be explained in one of
three ways. The first can be defined by the drive (drive reduction). Jack
learned that he did not have to stay and continue to suffer from Dwight’s
aggressive and abusive nature. He learned to engage in a behavior (deciding to
leave Concrete) that would reduce the physiological drive of pain avoidance.
The next theory of motivation that influenced Jack to make that decision was
the Humanistic Motivation theory. Jack had realized that there was nothing left
for him in Concrete. It was either stocking shelves at the supermarket or
leaving and making something of himself. He was now at the point where he had a
chance to reach his full potential, and become what he was capable of becoming.
The last and most probable theory is the instinct theory of motivation.
McDougall had said, humans have instincts that foster self-survival…James had
said we have social instincts, one of which is fear. Jack was in fear of his
life. One of these days Dwight may have lost it and taken it all out on Jack. Jack
needed to survive and protect himself. I believe that this is the reason why
Jack left. Had Dwight been a loving and caring father, Jack would have no
reason to fear Dwight and “survive” (pain avoidance.) I doubt that Jack would
resort to applying to the prep schools if Dwight was not the psycho he was.
Without being accepted to the Hill school Jack had no where else to go, so he
probably would have stayed in Concrete, even after the kitchen incident with
Dwight. In conclusion I believe that Jack was more extrinsically motivated.
From the school cutting, to the cigarettes, to the final decision to leave,
which was caused by the way Dwight treated Jack. All these factors come into
play, but the years that Jack spent in Concrete, Jack was extrinsically motivated
by his environment, his friends (the bums) and Dwight.
Caroline engaged in behaviors, both advantageous and unstable because of the
way she thought. The way Caroline interpreted a situation would determine how
she would react to it. If she thought rationally then she would act rationally,
if she thought irrationally then she would act irrationally. Her feelings of
self-doubt and self-confidence would determine her behavior.
-Tobias goes through troubling times while he is growing up in the 50s. Being a
teen is hard enough, but Tobias also has to face life without a stable home.
Although he is constantly blaming his mother for leaving his father, he knows
that it isn't her fault. His father was the one that left them.
Caroline’s decision to end her marriage can be explained by her perception of
her husband and what she thought about the marriage before the time of the
divorce. Her feelings of self-doubt would cause her view the reason her husband
left as her not being good enough, or that he had found a “bimbo” to run off
with.
She made a rational decision to date Roy because he provided for her and
Tobias. She left Roy because he had nothing to offer her. He was a dead beat
and he was only interested in her for one reason (sex) and she knew this. Her decision
to leave Roy was rational, however her sudden judgment to pack up and leave
everything and just move to Seattle with Jack was irrational, even though she
moved to Seattle with Jack in pursuit of a better life. The way Caroline
processes information, and the way she perceives things is the way she will
react to these things. She thought of Seattle as a fresh start with many new
opportunities for both of them. Caroline dreams of having a “better life”, a
life more fit than what she had with her ex husband, Roy, and more fit life
than she has now. After moving to Seattle and meeting Dwight she decides to
marry Dwight Hansen. She marries Dwight because she is thinking rationally. He
can provide for them and she knows that Jack needs a father. Dwight seems to be
the perfect husband...at first. Tobias soon finds out his stepfather's act of
being the "perfect suitor" was just a mask. Only after moving to
Concrete do things unfold. Dwight is unnaturally strict and selfish, and does
everything in his power to make Tobias's life a living hell. Just when Caroline
thinks she has escaped the feeling of loneliness and insecurity of Tobias's
future, she realizes she trapped herself into yet another obstacle. In the end,
Caroline decides to leave Dwight. She knew that he never loved her and that he
only needed her to cook and clean. She knows that he never even liked her to
begin with. Caroline realizes that all her decisions up to that point backfired
on her. Now she understands it is time to do, and with her newly gained
confidence she makes the decision of leaving him and moving to Florida. Up to
this point her low self-efficacy led her to make unwise decisions. Only after
observational learning and building up her feeling of self-confidence does
Caroline make a truly substantial decision.
Arthur and Jack were both similar and different. They were different in both
boys came from completely opposite upbringings. Arthur was raised to be polite
and courteous, where as jack had those qualities in him but chose to act more
macho and less considerate of others. It may have been the influence of the
crowd, which Jack hung out with. Arthur was also more open and carefree. He
chose to dress, talk, and act the way he did, because that was how his mother
had raised him, even though he knew this excluded him. Jack tended to blend in
with the crowd more. He needed to make social bonds and belong, whereas Arthur
may have wanted to but he didn’t conform to fit anyone’s image of what they
expected him to be. They have more similarities than differences. Their mothers
had raised both boys. I think the reason the boys got along and formed a
friendship was because they were both outsiders. Neither one really belonged in
Concrete. A town like Concrete has a certain image of what its boys are to be
like and Arthur and Jack didn’t fit into that image. Also Arthur did not have
any friends, and Jack’s “friends” were only guys who he horsed around with. He
and Arthur saw something in each other, which they based a friendship on, that
something was that they were outcasts.
I would have answered Arthur with a simple smile and “We can both leave
together!” Not to just convince or trick Arthur into getting me the transcript,
but to show him that he to didn’t have to stay. Since neither of us truly
belonged then it would have been rational for both of us to leave together. If
we were true friends then we would both look out for one another and help each
other on out way. I would have meant it, to ask Arthur to leave with me,
because his life in Concrete would be wasted if he didn’t realize that this is
his opportunity to leave. I would also tell Arthur that he can “succeed” and
make it big because he’s a smart kid, and that he shouldn’t let his mind and
talent go to waste, especially not in a crude town like Concrete.
In a way I seized my chance when I made my decision to move to Danbury. Things
weren’t going to well for me back in NY. I was hanging out with too many people
from the wrong crowd, and that eventually put me in many uncomfortable situations.
I was lagging behind in school and I kept getting into trouble. Had I stayed in
NY I probably would be up to the same things now as I was before. I would be
cutting school and causing my mother even more grief. Since I moved here I have
brought up my grades and am preparing for the SAT’s. That is another thing I
doubt I would be doing if I were in NY. Eleventh grade is the most important
grade, and I knew I needed to do well if I wanted to go to a good college and
make something o myself. The opportunity arose when my aunt moved here and I
seized the chance. I’m glad I didn’t decide to stay, otherwise I would be
wondering if I could have pulled it off.