Anger and Aggression
Everyone has felt anger or aggression many times in there life. It happens all
of the time. We all face the same challenge of trying to control our temper. It
may be easier for some people than it is for others. Many studies show that it
is healthy for a person to let out their anger once in a while. They believe
that it will help in your relationship with others and that it will increase
your self-esteem. They also believe that holding anger in is bad and unhealthy
for your body. If you let the anger build up it could go from just being a
verbal argument to a point in which someone or something is hurt or destroyed.
To control your anger you should release your aggression in a way that is not
harmful to others or yourself. People that look into a problem more closely can
control their anger better. These people get all of the facts and make a
proactive decision. Also by looking into the problem your may find out that it
wasn't as bad as you first thought. Looking into the problem will also help you
look at the consequences of the action you are going to take. Researchers also
believe that tv and movies have an impact on the ways we release our
aggression. They believe that in some way we are all influenced in some way by
movies and tv shows that we watch. If we can learn to control our anger we will
see that our life, and everyone else's life is a lot safer and more peaceful.
Some people may ask, "What causes a person to feel angry?" There are
two answers to the question. The first is that you may feel angry with yourself
or something that you may have done. The second is that you may be angry at
another person or object. Some people may refer to feeling angry with yourself
as internal anger and anger towards another person as external anger. An
example of internal anger is that you did not do as good as you wanted to do on
your test. An example of external anger is getting into an argument with a
friend. There are different ways of dealing with your anger. The best way is to
go right to the person that you are feeling angry with and talk to them about
it. Although this is the best way it may not always be an option for the
situation you are in. If you are angry with yourself you should find a friend
and talk to them about it and get it off your mind so you don't build up your
anger. Building up your anger is an example as well, but it is probably the
worst choice. Many people do this because they are afraid of hurting the
feelings of the other person. However, when people build up their anger it
usually seems to hurt their relationship with the other person. Also it is not
easy to hold in your anger because people that are close to you can tell when
you are feeling angry. Some people may not realize themselves that they are
feeling angry. One way to tell if you are angry is if you are short tempered.
Violent feelings are also ways of realizing that you are feeling angry. Some
people may be able to tell by physical symptoms. Some people get an upset
stomach, headaches, and ulcers. Your body can usually tell when something is
wrong. When you are going to let out your aggression you have to make a
decision if it is the right place and the right time to show your feelings.
Sometimes you are with a large group of people and it may not be the right time
to let out your angry feelings. It is best to find a place that is quiet and a
place where you can talk to someone about your feelings. It is much easier to
express your anger if you trust the person. That does not mean that you have to
trust the person, all you need to do is trust yourself. Their are a few steps
that may help people to learn more about their angry feelings. The first step
is to find out what is making you feel angry. It may be family, work, or friends.
The next step is to locate the source. This means that you need to find out if
it is internal anger or external anger. Then you need to find the right time
and place to talk about your feelings. This is the third step. The fourth, and
final step is to tell the person in the easiest and most simple way possible.
The person may not always react the way that you want, but you just have to
remember that you expressed your anger and it is they have to deal with it.
The teen years are a very difficult time for all families. Teens are starting
to grow up and try new things that their parents may not approve of. This
creates anger in the parents as well as the teens. The teens anger may be out
of control at times and they may do dangerous things. Such as using drugs and
drinking alcohol, they may make criminal acts or even attempt suicide. These
actions are symptoms of disruptive disorders. This is a large illness that
affects many people under the age of eighteen. A study showed that 9 percent of
all boys, and 2 percent of all girls under 18 are affected by a disruptive
disorder. Disruptive disorders are put in two groups. The oppositional defiant
disorder is when a teen has a bad temper and resists being disciplined without
hurting the rights of other people. The conduct disorder has many of the same
symptoms but these actions hurt the rights of other people. Parents may not be
able to tell if their child has a disorder because the are in denial or the
might be angry themselves. There are some things that a parent can look for to
tell if their teen has a disorder. Some signs are if the teen breaks rules all
of the time and stays out past curfew. Another sign is a teen that has ran away
from home. If lose their temper easy or get in trouble at school a lot they might
have a disorder. If they get in lots of fights and get in trouble with the law
they may have some symptoms of a disorder. A big sign is if they have talked
about or attempted suicide. If a situation goes untreated for a long time it
may result in aggressive behavior. Studies have shown that their are some
factors that are seen in most disorders. One factor is the environment the teen
has grown up in. An example is a divorce, and the teen may believe it is their
fault. Psychiatric disorders can also help cause disruptive disorders. Their
are also Medical and biological factors that may have an effect. Some other
factors are learning disabilities. Also drug and alcohol abuse can be symptoms
of a disruptive disorder. If a parent believes that their child may have a
disruptive disorder they should have it checked out right away. They can get
set up for treatment. Some methods of treatment are individual counseling,
family counseling, group therapy, and medication. Parents can also help the
teen control their aggressions and help them let it out in healthy ways. They
can show them different ways to deal with anger. They can use prevention and
try to stop the problem before it gets to far. They can also use crisis
management such as a sitting down and talking about the problem with the child.
Another method is time-outs this will help give the parents and the child a
chance to cool down. The best method for parents is to be a good role model for
the children. If they show good ways of dealing with anger their children may
do the same. A parent is the person who children look up to as they are growing
up.
Bibliography
1. Dealing with anger
http://www.allsands.com/Lifestyles/dealingwitha_apn_gn.htm
2. Dealing with anger
http://www.counsel.ufl.edu/selfHelp/dealingWithAnger.asp
3. Adolescent Anger and Aggression
http://www.mi-pathways.org/brochures/adolescent_agression.html